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The academy ended Friday afternoon.. and I was surprisingly sad. Some magical dust seemed to fall on us while in the capitol on Wednesday and we all fell in love with each other. All of a sudden everyone liked each other and by Thursday night we could agree to disagree on all types of stuff and just hang out. Friday’s graduation was all TEARS. Now we are all spending way too much time on facebook sending wall posts and messages.

The last three days were so full of knowledge, advice, and shared experience. I met more women in those three days than I imagined. The experience filled me sooooo much. I didn’t think I could get anything else inside of me. I still have yet to process it all or write out all my thank you notes and send emails. To be honest there is a lot I still haven’t taken in..just put it away in a compartment and will revisit it later.

I can say that my “networking”/talking to strangers abilities have improved. I was bombarded with introductions and conversations with legislators, supreme court justices, and other women in politics. Although I am still pretty quiet I feel like I could walk up to anyone and just start talking if I need to… and that feels good.

Last night, while I was still very full with last week and exhausted  I went to see Sunni Patterson. Amazing is an understatement!  Her commentary was intense and right started around 8:30 and she finally left the stage around 11:30….. by the end I was so very tired and she said so much that I was just trying to pack it into my brain somewhere to visit later. I am sure the cd we bought will be put to good use in the car and spark many conversations ( because my brain was to swollen to have a good conversation last night.)

I’ll leave you with some Sunni… Hopefully as I untangle all of my thoughts I can share them!


My leadership academy is eye-opening, fun, mind blowing, frustrating, disappointing, and annoying all at the same time. But, once you get passed the natural problems that arise when you place 36 strong opinionated women into a room together for more than 10 min it is all worth it. The walls are oozing with ambition and motivation, and the presenters are SO amazing! The faculty in residence for the week is the first female circuit judge in the city and the director of the institute has been a HUGE influence on women in state government since the 70’s. How many people can say they have eaten breakfast and talked about life with women like that? Or have seen them in spandex walking around campus? And those are just two of the 30+ women I get to talk with this week… not to mention the dinner that will be full of everyone who is anyone. I am completely overwhelmed with the years and years of experience and wisdom these women bring… and uping my network game to catch up.

BUT… of course everything is not all rose colored. I seriously don’t understand why some of these women are here in the institute. There are people making everyone else’s experience a living hell. The Cattyness , the whining, the attitudes..its all too much. We are having a mock legislative session tomorrow on the floor of the house at the capitol. We were to prepare for the debate today… it was a disaster and I suspect the actual debate will be as well. There was yelling, rolled eyes, and one person got so fed up she just left. At the end of our planning session nothing had been accomplished and everyone went off in to groups to bitch about what just happened. It was embarrassing and the display could really have been an ad for why women shouldn’t run the world.

It has also been hard to get to know anyone here. I have only had one GOOD conversation with one like minded person, and she possibly could be the only person I keep in touch with beyond friday. I did have a conversation with a past fellow that wanted to know about my involvement with LGBT groups and how to form one on her campus. Other than that its just a bunch of crabs in a barrel, all trying to meet the guests to network or trying to bitchingly get their agenda across when we are working in groups…. sisterhood?? Nope we don’t need that at the women’s leadership academy! 😦

I will try to update again if I find time…